February Reflections Exercise

Hello everyone,

I hope that at the time of me writing my (Slightly late) February blog both client’s past and present and followers of It’s just a feeling are as well as they can be and progressing in their own journey through what can be difficult emotions.

Welcome to my February blog post.

This is a reflective post in which I suggest the following may be needed:

  • A Pen and Paper or Journal
  • A cup of tea, coffee, hot chocolate, water or whatever drink that you may find enjoyable and comforting
  • A quiet comfortable space where it is easy to be alone with your thoughts
  • Enough time to reflect on your thoughts without feeling rushed

Once all the above is in place and you are settled the next stage is to consider your answer to the following

  • What is my goal?

Consider that within this journey what is your end point? What would you like to strive for to change your current feelings and circumstance to what you may like it to be? What is your aim? Write all your thoughts, it’s important.

  • What do you think anxiety recovery is?

When we consider the above, we could reflect on our belief of what it might feel like to rid ourselves of anxiety. How would we be with no anxiety? What expectations do we have before we BELIEVE that we are back to how we feel we should be?

There are no wrong or right answers here, this is your THOUGHTS and YOUR expectations.

Ok, you have answered this question?

Now consider if your expectations are realistic? If not why not?

A good example of an unrealistic consideration is that often, individuals with anxious feelings express that anxiety recovery is being back to ‘how they used to be’ almost as though before they were ecstatically happy 24/7 always before. This can be a distorted view of what is realistic.

Consider that no human being can be ecstatically happy 24/4 our moods naturally change and evolve through different factors such as the environment around us or our hormone fluctuations to give two examples.  Moods go up and down. It is likely that before anxiety, each person experienced ‘down days’ as they do now but, the difference being that they just went with it, rather than resisted it as they are seeing it as something wrong with them.

Secondly, every individual is constantly always changing and evolving so we are never back to ‘how we were before’ even if we don’t suffer from anxiety!

  • What does success look like to me?

What does it look like to be successful in the journey of overcoming anxious feelings and feeling a positive increase in quality of life? How would you measure your success?

  • What might life be like without constant anxious feelings?

Dare to dream here, how do you think life would be without this present emotional state?

  • What can I do to get there?

For example, is there any part of recovery that you could take responsibility for? How could you do this? Does working towards a better quality of life require a difference to the way in which you are approaching it now? What action could you take? Does action require small manageable steps?

  • Is there anything that I am currently doing that is not/will not work for me?

Consider if the way you are currently approaching your recovery is helping you to get nearer to where you want to be? If not, why not? Is there anything else you may need to change your approach? An example might be additional support from a Therapist or Coach or more action on your part? Approaching anxiety in a different way can feel overwhelming as we walk towards fear but it is the only way. What do you need for yourself or from others to get there? How might you implement this?

Finally, how do your thoughts look? Is there anything that surprises you?

There is often something very powerful about bringing your true thoughts out of yourself and being able to see them down on paper. It is very like bringing the subconscious in to the conscious awareness!

Once this happens and we are consciously aware we can change the patterns that do not work from us, but this does take a level of action and some responsibility on our own part.

Once you have completed your answers, reflect on them. Has this given you a different perspective in anyway?

You can now consider your action plan, which is in front of you. Getting to know you is a very powerful tool in considering the habitual behaviours that make up your anxiety habit.

I hope that everyone who decides to take part in my February Reflections takes something from the exercise.

Until my March blog post

Michelle x


I found this site at a crucial point in my anxiety over xmas and look forward to trying this Reflections exercise. I'd been having spiraling dark and obsessive thoughts on xmas eve that left me quite hopeless and I had a mini panic attack on Xmas day that i had to hide from my family, but finding this site really helped me feel less lonely. Thank you :)

Posted by Rebecca , on Friday 28th February 2020, 4:36 PM

This website has helped me get through some pretty bad days. I will always use it as a tool to my recovery! Thank you!!

Posted by Jessica , on Monday 24th February 2020, 3:11 AM

thanks.... I just realised that, even if I feel that my experiences are brushed aside as though they're not shockingly abnormal...my reactions are normal; they're not faulty. thank you.

Posted by Caroline , on Thursday 20th February 2020, 12:48 AM

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